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| Wed, 8 Sep 2010 23:55:34 |
embroglio |
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The 15 mistakes that ruin romance- and how to avoid them.
By John Aitken
John has created a reference book that can be read in its entirety or by choice of chapters, if only he had created it when I was a teenager (twenty years ago). Mind you on that topic you can add what if there was Windows 85? It’s a review of archetypes John has put together from his own life experience and that as a practicing Clinical Psychologist in New Zealand.
The first chapter hit me like a freight train, going out with someone who is “Unavailable”. I have never been able to sum up a girlfriend I had in the early 90s until I read the chapter one, from there I was hooked and curious.
Not only does this book get to the nitty gritty of romantic relationships, it can be applied to friendships. I was struck by how easy it was to read yet it left me with deep questions about myself that over the last 9 weeks remain food for thought and action.
The book is written for an adult audience however I think a young person could get some insight and benefit from it. That is, if it is taken in a positive light. I recommend you read the book yourself before you lend it to a teenager or tweenie. It’s a healing book for those who have suffered and those that have caused suffering.
How many times with a tired heavy broken heart could I have delved into its chapters and walked away with a call to action and empowerment to change and modify my life?
The book amongst my friends have brought a lot of joy and laughter as partnered colleagues have looked up their chapters, amazed they have a spouse in the first place! I can look back at old songs I have written and which chapters applied to me at the time Ie. “You have a negative Attitude” or “You’re too clingy” or “You put work before Love” which is very embarrassing at all family conventions and parties as I see the fruits of love generate so much critical (loving) life.
After you read the book for the first time one can chuckle that Johns wife must be indeed smarter than him. “Dear it appears you have not watched the television today…this means that…dear why have you not picked up the paper?” Jokes aside, John has created a book as powerful as Think and Grow Rich or The Secret it’s that thorough it’s that good. Another handbook for living.
A quick look at Amazon.com right now suggests this gem has been created in my homeland at the edge of the world where there is time and space to reflect outside the busy streets of life in London or New York
It’s a healing resource, you end some chapters saying “yep, that’s it, that’s me that’s what I thought and that’s how I acted…that’s what I suffered and those were the results. And those results are here now keeping me Accidentally Single.
How come after all this time I am still single, everyone else around me has a partner, how come I can’t cut it? Hang on for a moment, a lot of my my friends are single they are great people! I know great men and great women and great intersex (both gender sexuel organs) people, how come they are single? Read this book and discover possible non conscious and conscious mindsets. This omnibus of thought deserves to be represented in Hardback. Cheers John!
Thanks a lot for reading this post,
With metta,
embroglio 
Relax and Grow Rich
By Mike Hutcheson and Claire Wadey
Thankfully, this is another resource book highly useful in identifying differences in the way we are and how we all work differently. The whole book is an argument against the work-a-holic. And a “supporting beam”, in the writing shed of a creative person. A great gift to someone seemingly confused at how they fit in the world.
The book draws a line between a creative person and a sensible person, citing some think the ideas and some get the job done. You want a sensible person who has logic to operate on you, gifted in a certain way of thinking but it also upholds the zig zag way of the thinker who pulls an important idea seemingly out of thin air which changes the board game.
The book leaves many questions as food for thought in ones entire lifetime, that is to say calmly stable arguments balanced by copious amounts of research on Creativity and the Flow Principle. Getting into the flow is reasoned here with great solutions to achieving it.
It’s the golden apple of every creative person’s tree, so confusing when one is seemingly too stressed to obtain it fast food (Now! Now! Now!) style. The Slow Food lifestyle is even mentioned, it’s a complete manual, the first door into creativity 101. And they still allure to the mysticism of creativity even if they do slag off Ozzy!
It’s a book that sent me back to my teens and twenties, it’s a necessary catch up for all us serious people to stop taking ourselves too seriously if we are about to create better times and stuff. Take a break!
It has been so good to have an ally to learning how to relax because its worth it for a decent future. By that I need to explain by all means keep going at the project but you must have periods in the day to relax., like taking that shower The book says to relax is to not be idle and bored, nothing comes of that. Its about adding a relaxing dynamic to life thus increasing the time of flow for the procurement of new ideas. And new ideas (often drawing from history) are what it’s all about.
For a creative person it enlightened my history, why I am suited to a sequencer rather than a guitar. It always pissed me off so many of my mates could play the various instruments in a band, build houses, hold down real jobs in the early to mid 1990s and it has shown me that I do contribute fair and square just in a different way. It also showed me that my hard work in learning to listen from 1994 onwards leaves me able to communicate well instead of being ethereal or ego: what I create is king (when its soundly not) driven.
It also showed me that my mates who are Sensible get frustrated because they don’t know how to unlock their creativity which I have always soundly believed is in all of us.
The book calmly states this philosophical truth. And how to learn to unleash it, or be aware of it in its own state. For many years to come I will plan my way using it.
Like its goal, the book goes off into creative side streets, teaching you more than you planned to know, but very useful thinking in life’s amazing experience.
For some strange reason I heard one of the authors on Radio new Zealand national and felt instantly I had to buy it online. It takes its name from Napoleon Hills Think and grow Rich but it is a whole subject unto itself on getting into the flow and creativity.
Thank you, Mike and Claire. From what I know of you Mike in Marketing, it makes a real difference to read you standing up for creatives even if you would put most of us as consultants and not on the weekly payroll.
Even if you see yourself as a non creative person but you know a friend or family member who is a creative weirdo, this book will illume your contribution and theirs and gain you a meeting in the middle because it openly talks about the differences in people, much like The Answer talks about. And it is written in 2010 with all the modern lingo and awareness we have like social media and modern leaders we observe.
It’s changed my life in the way I fit in to the puzzle, how I contribute and how frustrating it can be dealing with creatives from a sensible point of view. I suspect Mike and Claire have jumped many hurdles, what a body of research and what a unifying resource for personal development and business HR balance.
Thanks a lot for reading this post
With metta
Embroglio
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| Tue, 27 Apr 2010 22:53:57 |
uptownbob |
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c'mon you-all...lets get some blogs going...put a topic up and lets get some interaction.
i like this site but i'm getting to be a lonely uptownbob looking for a blog rave!! 
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| Tue, 27 Apr 2010 22:52:12 |
foxyroxy |
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what's the difference between casual sex and making love?
i thought i saw someone else on here ask this but i can't see dat blog anymore?
i guess things start out as casual or a quickie and then if all goes well you might end up making sweet luurve?
it's all good but be interested in other thoughts? 
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| Wed, 23 Dec 2009 9:13:22 |
Argentin |
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Check out the news section on this site folks.....it's interesting reading!
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| Wed, 2 Dec 2009 23:19:08 |
salathai |
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dating
This is a blog entry about dating. 
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